Beyond “How Was School?”: Questions That Help Kids Open Up

As parents and caregivers, we want to stay connected to our kids’ inner world. But if we only ask, “How was school?” we often get the familiar response: “Fine.”

Sometimes, kids need a little more help knowing where to begin.

Instead of questions that can be answered with one word, try asking questions that invite reflection, storytelling, and conversation:

• What was the best part of your day?
  
• What made you laugh today?
  
• What was the most challenging part of your day?
  
• Did anything surprise you today?
  
• Who did you spend the most time with today?
  
• Was there a moment when you felt really proud of yourself?
  
• Did anything make you feel frustrated, worried, or left out?
  
• If you could change one thing about today, what would it be?
  
• What is something you’re looking forward to tomorrow?
  

And remember: the goal isn't to interrogate. It's to show curiosity and create space for your child to share when they're ready.

Sometimes the best conversations happen in the car, during bedtime, while making dinner, or when you're doing something side-by-side. Put down the phone, make space, and listen without immediately trying to fix the problem.

Curiosity builds connection. Connection builds trust. And trust helps kids feel safe enough to share the things that matter most.